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I don't want to be on video

"I don't want to be on video!"

... is the biggest excuse I hear from people who avoid using video as part of their business marketing.

The first thing is to look at the real reasons why people avoid video. These are the most common excuses I hear:

 - I don't like the way I look or sound on video
- I'm not going to be good enough

Lets deal with the first one first.

I don't like the way I look or sound on video

When you watch yourself on camera for the first time, you're experiencing yourself like you've never experienced yourself before - exactly how you look and sound!

Eh? Let me explain... Unless you are prone to out of body experiences, the only way to see yourself moving around is in a reflection... Looking in a mirror, in a puddle, in the reflection of a shop window, so the image of you you're most comfortable with is your reflection.

That means, when you see yourself in video for the first time (not as a reflection), the immediate response is "that's not me". But it is you and it is exactly how everyone else who knows (and loves) you, sees you.

What about how you sound on video? We all hear when our ear drum vibrates, but there are two ways to get it vibrating.

  1. when sound waves enter our ear hole then hits the drum
  2. when sounds vibrate through the bones of your skull and vibrates your drum

You hear your voice through your skull, and as the sound travels through your bones they spread out and lower in pitch, giving you a false sense of bass. When you hear your voice on video, it sounds higher and unfamiliar to you.

See what the BBC says about why we hate hearing our own voice

So when you first watch yourself on video you are seeing and hearing yourself as everyone else sees and hears you, but not how you have ever experienced yourself before. This "new" you is going to take a little time to get used to. But this is no excuse to avoid making videos.

I'm not going to be good enough

When I was nine I started learning the clarinet. It was difficult to begin with and the noise coming out the end of it didn't sound a bit like the sound my cousin was able to get out of her clarinet. "I just wasn't good enough..."

Or maybe, I just hadn't had enough time to learn how to play it properly and practice.

This is true of every new thing we try... It is unlikely that we will be great at it at our first attempt. But this is no excuse to avoid making videos.

You need to practice, get a great teacher, coach, mentor, trainer, director and let me help you though those early uncomfortable moments and support you in becoming confident in front of camera.

And just to let you know, in the nearly 30 years I've been working in television and video production, there's not been a single person who I haven't managed to get over their initial fear and helped them look great.

I had to overcome my fears too

Yes... When I first saw myself on video I didn't like the way I looked or sounded. I also had to get over seeing my disability which was tough... But do you know what got me through?

My passion

When you talk with passion and enthusiasm the camera loves you, and all those doubts and worries about how you look and sound disappear. Which I talk about in this video below.

So come on... No more excuses, no more avoiding doing what I know you want to do. Just give it a go, get yourself started, practice and get a mentor / director to help you in your journey.


3 comments on “I don't want to be on video”

    1. My pleasure Gillian, I have also found that when I talk from my passion and my heart it doesn't matter what I look like (or to be honest what I say), a connection is made between me and the person watching my video.

  1. Thanks Neil this is a great and timely reminder about being visible - both in terms of video but also in terms of marketing ourselves online and presenting too. Great post to KO 2017

Neil Ben

Neil Ben is a Director, Coach and Trainer who works with Entrepreneurs, Sole Traders and SMEs, to help them use video to stand out from their competitors. He started his television career as an assistant producer in the BBC in the late 80s and has won many awards for both his broadcast and video productions including a BAFTA nomination and an FSB Award for Business Innovation.

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